Ten Ways to Slow the Flow of Attraction
Pt. II: “Hoarding Hurts Everyone”
By
Elvin J. Dowling
The Architect of Change™
The purpose of this blog is to serve as a communications medium that allows individuals who are followers myself, Elvin Dowling, The Architect of Change, and those interested in empowering themselves by embracing change and achieving greatness, an opportunity to learn the secrets to living a great life, as outlined in each day’s blog entry.
Each week, we will focus on a unique “Top 10″ theme from Thomas J. Leonard’s Working Wisdom book and explore each topic, each day, two at a time.
This week’s theme: “10 Ways to Slow the Flow of Attraction*.”
3. Accumulate what’s not needed–
Sometimes when I am sitting on my couch with absolutely nothing left to do, I watch an episode of the hit television show, Hoarders, in which the chronicle people who live in filth, squalor and mountains of junk they have accumulated over the years to help wall people. In this compellingly sad train wreck of human desperation and one thing remains abundantly clear– hoarding hurts everyone. Obviously, its greatest impact is on those who are forced to live inside the mess, the hoarder themselves and their immediate family members, but it also hurts those around them who must put up with the eyesore or be closed off from an individual’s life and forced to only be an acquaintance.
Now, for some of us, hoarding stuff is not our thing, but the emotional baggage we carry around every day screams that we are drowning in junk instead of walking on top of it. In fact, I believe that all of us have something that we are clamoring to achieve, hoping that no one beats us to the punch and gets all the goodies before we can get there ourselves. No matter what the burden is, cramming our lives full of crap isn’t going to make our problems go away.
It has often been said that the best thing to do when you find yourself in a hole is to stop digging! To get rid of some of your hoarding tendencies, which manifest themselves in pent up emotions, grudges you have held for far too long to remember why you’re even angry in the first place and other negative ways, you must first recognize that you have a problem (or problems) to address. Start by simply stopping to take an honest inventory of your wonderfully complicated life and every thing that’s in it. If you find there are things that you ought not carry, give yourself permission to lay them down right where you are. Refuse to carry them any longer. Life is too short and time is too fleeting to do anything but the best you can with what you’ve got.
4. Mislabel–
Growing up as a child, I often heard my mother remind me that “pride comes right before a fall.” As an individual who strives to be humble in all things and to never take myself too seriously, this mantra continues to serve as a life lesson to me when striving to help lead others. As such, I have discovered in life is that the best ways in which you can repel the flow of attraction is to start by smelling yourself. For those who may be from another neighborhood, that’s slang for “believing your own hype,” which is, come to think of it, slang too! At any rate, don’t let your ego get the best of you. Throughout the course of history, the best leaders, in the most challenging of circumstances, were often humble in spirit and bold in action, allowing them the flexibility to be guided by a strength much higher than themselves, having been successful at moving ego out of the way.
In their wonderfully insightful book, The 48 Laws of Power, Robert Greene and Joost Elfers offer one historical account after the other about foolish men and women who have, throughout the years, believed their own press clippings and allowed their egos to get in the way of their doing the right thing–because it is the right thing. Whether its elected who officials who refuse to admit mistakes or overbearing bosses who treat their employees poorly simply because they can, . Achieving success and enjoying the trappings of power should always be accompanied with gratefulness and a humble heart that seeks to serve others the best way that you know how. In doing so, you attract more positive energy into your life to help catapult your dreams.
* Inspired by Working Wisdom: The Top Ten Lists for Improving Your Business! by Thomas J. Leonard.
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Elvin J. Dowling, The Architect of Change, is a Speaker, Career and Life Coach, Author, Entrepreneur, and America’s leading advocate for achieving greatness by embracing change. To learn more about Elvin, The Architect of Change™, or to become a Change Agent yourself, feel free to visit his website atwww.ArchitectOfChange.com. You may also follow him on Facebook and Twitter.
